Stop pointing the finger and making excuses; plain and simple. It’s easy to blame others or events for not being where you want to be in life. One of my favorite clips is the scene from Rocky Balboa, where Rocky is talking to his son and telling him to stop blaming others. He tells his son that he grew up and was doing great for himself, and then when things got hard he started looking for something or someone to blame, like a big shadow. When people aren’t getting where they want in life, they start pointing their fingers at people saying they’re not where they want to be because of him or her. Cowards do that. Is that something you want to be known as, a coward? Life is not a utopia, meaning it isn’t perfect, nor will it ever be perfect. Life is always compared to a roller coaster because of all the ups and downs in life. When you’re on the downward trajectory, don’t look for reasons to make an excuse or blame someone other than yourself. Take responsibility for your actions. That’s when you will truly grow and become successful.
Everyone has had these situations, where they start blaming others or genetics or whatever the case may be. One of my goals is to better my physical fitness. When things get challenging, or I’m not where I want to be fitness wise, I blame my shoulder. Back in November, I was playing football and I dislocated my shoulder. The MRI revealed I tore my anterior labrum and in January I had surgery. My physical fitness wasn’t great before that, but it got a lot worse after I got hurt. If anyone has ever had an injury or surgery, for that matter, you should take the recovery process slowly, so you don’t reinjure yourself. Well, while my shoulder was healing, I wouldn’t work on my physical fitness in the right manner, so my fitness levels decreased. I kept blaming my shoulder for everything. I wasn’t where I wanted to be because of my shoulder, I couldn’t do this or that because of my shoulder. Instead of taking on the challenge and finding new solutions to the problem, I gave up. When I was trying to make improvements in my own way and making progress, I let people stick a finger in my face and tell me I was making a mistake, that I wasn’t doing what I needed to be doing. I was frustrated because people talked to me as if I didn’t know what I was doing to help myself and they just put me down instead of helping me out. I made excuse after excuse blaming other people and my situation. I fell behind in my goals and my dreams because I let what people say things to me and I let them get to me. I needed to take responsibility for my actions, still do. Now, not only do I have to work twice as hard to get back where I need to be, I start falling behind in my other goals and aspirations.
Moral of the story: “Life ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty world out there and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”-From Rocky Balboa