The golden rule that we are all taught growing up is: do onto others as you wish onto you. This concept seems to be a forgotten concept. Let’s take my work for example. When people deal with difficult or negative situations, they want others to feel what they went through as well. If things were done incorrectly before, then why change them for other people? That doesn’t make any sense does it? If you didn’t like things before, why not change it so other people don’t suffer like you did? Isn’t that the goal in life, to help someone out? Stop complaining that bad things happened to you and make sure someone else doesn’t pay the same price and end up in the same predicament.
If you want to change your lifestyle from a negative one to a positive one, start by trying to make someone’s life better other than your own. If something bad happened to you, make sure it doesn’t happen to someone else. You wouldn’t want it to happen again, would you? I can never understand how people hate what happened to them so much, that they would wish it upon other people. That is a hater’s mentality and a negative outlook on life. If you have the ability to help someone, do it! That’s human nature.
Here’s a specific example from this weekend. If you have not read The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, then you are doing yourself a disservice. Of the 5, my love language is words of affirmation. This past weekend was the last weekend I would work in Fort Worth as I transition to Japan, after staying in Texas for the last 5 years. At the end of Saturday, the people who were leaving and those who just arrived were recognized. I was not one of them. For someone who’s love language is words of affirmation, it hurts. I was frustrated for a little bit, but then I thought to myself, how can I amend this? I hate how it feels, so how can I prevent other people from feeling this way. I have a few weeks left at work, so my goal is to ensure the proper people get recognized for the contribution and the hard work that they put forth. I didn’t wish evil upon those who did not recognize me or others who had not, but rather find a way for others to not have those same ill feelings.
Life is what you make it. If your work life is so miserable, change it. If you personal life is miserable, change it. You are in control of your life and your destiny. Act like it. What’s your excuse?