This is the in between stage of changing your life from negative to positive and taking responsibility of your life. In order to improve your life and make it more positive, you have to admit there is a problem and stop denying the truth. Nothing will get better until you do so. When people abuse alcohol or drugs, they can only get better if they admit there is a problem. They can’t just quit because they have an addiction. They can say “I can quit if I want to, so I’m not addicted” just like we can say I can have a better life doing the same thing I’ve been doing, but at the end of the day, it doesn’t work like that. You need to stop denying the truth.
When you have a loved one who is addicted to a substance and they refuse to admit it, some people will hold an intervention to try and get that person to admit the problem and see what they are doing to their loved ones. So, the question is, who is going to hold an intervention for you when your life is so negative? Most people around you could be in the same boat, so who will help you realize you are denying your lifestyle?
When you’re in high school and your grades are slipping because you’re not focused on your schoolwork, there’s a good chance your parents will bring that up and hold that intervention for you. When you’re in college, you’re an adult now, and many people go to a college far away so they don’t have to be home. Who holds that intervention for you?
If you roll the dice and a 5 and 4 land face up, you cannot deny that it is a 5 and a 4. Unless you cheat and make up a phony story, but you would be in denial! The dice you roll and the cards you are dealt is what you have at the moment. You will have your chances to re-roll and to exchange cards, but don’t deny what is in front of you.
In my last post, I talked about the pity card and the need to throw it away. Most people aren’t going to point it out, that you are using the pity card. People will either be in the “misery loves company” mode or “I don’t want to associate myself with these kind of people” mode. So again, I ask, who holds the intervention?
You will be very fortunate to have friends or family who truly care about your well-being and will help you in any time you are in a rut or could do be doing better. But, at the end of the day, it will all come down to you and your mindset. Will you admit your faults, an addiction to being negative or will you remain in denial and let your true potential slip on by? The choice will always be yours. There is always a way to get help and remember, that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength and courage.
For the sake of making a better life for you and your family, admit that there is a problem. Admit your imperfections and move on to make it better. The longer you hold the negative energy, the longer it will take for you to improve your life. You will continue to live in negativity and despair; instead of positivity and love. Hold that intervention with yourself and make the rest of your life the best it can be.
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