Lessons Learned

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It’s been a couple of weeks since my last update and that’s because I’ve had quite a bit going on.  Within that time, I have definitely taken away some important lessons.  Here’s what I’ve been up to and what I’ve learned.

Sense of Permanency

I recently had the huge stress relief I’ve needed.  I received a job offer within an hour and a half of completing the interview.  Within that interview, I was able to make a quick realization that helped me get through it.  With the first two questions, I felt as if I was focusing on what the interviewer wanted to hear, but when I realized that, I changed my approach.  If I was going to get or not et the job, I was going to do it by being myself. 

Everyone has something unique to offer the world and you deserve to show that off.  Success feels so much better when you are unapologetically you.  If you put on a show to be who you think people want you to be, then you will have to spend the rest of your life, pretending.  That’s a huge toll to take on for a lifetime.  You shouldn’t have to do that.  Be unapologetically you.  Once you accept who you are, your life will be much more fulfilled.


One thing that has been a constant in my transition out of the military has been the fact that I devote time to the gym and my health.  Unfortunately, I believe I might have torn my shoulder.  Hopefully, I’m wrong, but it’s unlikely.  I’ve taken some time off from the gym to let my shoulder heal. 

Instead, I did something I’ve never done before.  My Aunt and Uncle invited me to go caving with them this past weekend.  It’s something that my Aunt is very passionate about and I could have said no since I didn’t know what I was getting into, but what’s the fun in that?  It’s important to be comfortable with being uncomfortable and that requires you to put yourself into those situations.

So, I took them up on the offer and they helped with the gear.  As we approached the cave entrance, I was pretty nervous because I had literally no idea what I was getting myself into.  My wife and I had gone through a commercial cave in Japan, but this was very different. I was going underground. 

I’m honestly thankful for the opportunity and it challenged me in different ways.  Going through the cave, I felt like a kid at a playground.  I had to think critically how I was going to navigate the cave without getting stuck or hurt.  It was a challenge I hadn’t really felt before because I also had the freedom to make my own decisions to the challenge.  I’ve grown over the years and the way I’ve attacked challenges has also changed.  I was able to attack with patience and reaped the rewards of going all the way through and seeing the beauty of nature.  There were a few tight places, but it was a great beginner cave.


So, my goal was to read one book per month, but the momentum has carried me into a regular reading habit.  I was able to finish one book early in the month, Crushing it!, which I wrote a blog post on here, and now I’m nearing the end of my next book, You Are a Badass.  The habit that I created has given me the ability to continue pushing myself in the right direction.  I’ve been collecting books lately that I’m intending to read one after the other.

It’s important to continue learning every day and reading all of these books ensures that I maintain that consistent approach.

Social Media

Honestly, I definitely have had some ups and downs building up my social media, but if I were to summarize it, I’d say I’m killing it.  I made some changes with my Instagram such as changing my handle to my name vice Melvin.  I felt it was necessary for people to realize that they’re talking to a real person and not a business trying to sell something.  Again, it’s important to be unapologetically you. Just be a person and people will enjoy your company and are more likely to listen to what you have to say.


Being away from my family is a very difficult thing to do. What’s even harder is seeing how fast they’re growing up. The girls have been doing great in school and Jamie is such a talkative baby boy and working at crawling. He turns 5 months this Sunday. Don’t take the time you have with your family for granted. You never know what tomorrow brings. Yes, continue grinding and being the best version of yourself, but don’t neglect what means the most to you. You only have one life and it’s important to live without regrets and being consumed with guilt of shoulda, woulda, coulda. Live your life full of love and spread that joy.

Family time


  1. Be unapologetically you.
  2. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
  3. Challenge yourself
  4. Make time for your loved ones
  5. Be the best version of you

What lessons have you learned recently? Comment below and share your story.


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